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Goodbye, January! Thanks for the Hot Dog Moon!

blood moon

In case you are wondering what the hell I am talking about, I just woke up my seven year old to come look at the blood moon. At first, she wasn’t having any of it- she was like, “Nah, mom, I’m good. I’m just going to sleep.” So I left her alone. But a few minutes later, she got up and, after wrapping her up in a fuzzy blanket, I ushered her down the steep steps of my front porch, and out beneath the sky. She was appropriately excited about what she was seeing.

“Wow, mom! That’s just amazing! It’s like a deep, burning red! It’s hot-dog colored! How amazing!” This is an actual quote. For a seven year old, that’s downright poetic. Hot dogs are objects of great affection…no higher compliment she could have paid that blood moon.

Anyway, believe it or not, today is the very last day of the month! An entire month of 2018 is already behind us. For me, it has been an incredibly meaningful month, and I truly mean that. Here are some of the highlights of  January for me:

  • I started a critique group for my fiction writing, something I have wanted to do for years. I actually pulled it off! We have met twice already, and will continue to meet every other Friday for as long as it keeps working. It is so helpful, and it feels so great to hang out with other people who love writing as much as I do.
  • I have been growing my blog like crazy! Regular posts and lots of interaction with other bloggers has been so gratifying for me, and I can’t describe how much I’ve gotten back from you guys. It feels so great to be connected this way.
  • I have written massive amounts on my novel. I also cut three chapters, which was painful, but it had to be done. I am in love with the story that is coming out of me. I always feel more like I am transcribing a movie that is playing in my head, rather than actually making something up. I’m just reporting what I see, really. And I love what I have been seeing.
  • I have spent some quality time with my kids, most notably with Aisley, on our little weekend hiking/cabin adventure in Boulder Creek.
  • I have not missed one day of meditation this month.
  • I have still not smoked, not even one cigarette, in 71 days.

Here are some of the things I need to be better about, going forward:

  • I REALLY need to cut back on my coffee consumption. I finally got a decent nights sleep last night, but I think drinking 7 or so cups of coffee daily is a bit excessive. The problem is , I like the taste so much, especially because I doctor it up with so much cream and sugar. Which leads me to the next item on the list-
  • Eating. I mean, I have to eat to survive, but I know I can eat less donuts and chimichanga’s (the dictionary here does not recognize the word “chimichanga” and wants to correct it to “Michigan” which is what I felt like I ate after that deep fried, beef filled tortilla of happiness hit my system, honestly) and a lot less of everything in general, and I would feel better. In February, I hope to get back to healthier eating.
  • Hand in hand with eating goes exercise- I get lots of it, but I don’t think I push myself hard enough. I need to try a little harder.
  • The last thing I am really struggling with lately is chronic over-scheduling- I do not have one night this week where I am just doing nothing, and it makes me crazy. I want to sit down and have a real dinner with my kid, but this week, that isn’t going to happen. The truth is, it’s up to me to learn how to say no, and I haven’t been very good at that lately. I am going to remember what my real priorities are, and why.

And THAT is why my theme for February is going to be Family. Also, because they both happen to start with “F”, but mostly because I really do want to bring my focus back where it belongs. My kids! And myself, because I do consider myself part of my family.

So there you have it! My month in a nutshell. How did your January go? What did you get right, and what needs some adjusting? Thanks to all of you who have joined me here over the past month. You have all added something so cool to my life, and I couldn’t be more excited about being on this journey with you!



I'm a single mom living life fully after years of intense addiction, trying to navigate life with grace-and failing spectacularly, sometimes. Learning to be a grown up In my 40's, without losing my lust for life, or my faith in humanity. Come, watch the antics. It should be fun (for you, at least).

7 thoughts on “Goodbye, January! Thanks for the Hot Dog Moon!

  1. I was just out looking at the blood moon too, wrapped in a blanket. So unexpected, hadn’t heard it was coming. Sounds life you had a great January, and are making great progress on your novel. That’s a good place to be. I feel the same, a great start on the final editing of my novel this month.

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  2. It sounds very busy, and I think the idea of good eating and exercise and other forms of taking care of yourself is so important. Good for you for not smoking.

    I drink a ton of water, and that helps my health a lot. I eat less when I get enough water, and I look better, not as wrinkly and cranky! They say that we need ‘one ounce per half the pounds we weigh’, so if we weigh 200 (just to make the numbers easy), then we need 100 ounces of water a day–not soda or coffee etc., just water itself. I should have quit coffee already, as directed by my nice Tibetan doctor, but at the minimum I force myself to have none after 3 pm, so it will not mess with my sleep. You may be different, but maybe switching to decaf is smart, and maybe be aware that buckets of coffee with sugar etc. will mess up your diet too, since it can be like a bunch of little desserts. I use half and half but not sugar in mine, so it’s big calories for me, but not added sugar. My family was all heavy drinkers and I used to be addicted to sugar, since it is metabolised similarly, but I lost my taste for it, thank goodness.

    My husband is a psychologist who has helped people get off substances, and he liked the nutrition from (not an affiliate link or anything, just a resource) I haven’t looked at the site so much lately although I have in the past, and I know they sell nutrition supplements and all, but I think they may have good advice or links about how nutrition can help people stay off booze and drugs etc. I think nutrition is superimportant in supporting the body and mind especially after getting rid of unhealthy substances in your diet, so I hope you find the support you need. I think it’s great that you are doing your best.

    Sorry for the giant uninvited lecture, but I hope it helps somewhat!

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